Copy and paste your two questions from blog 1.
Did your book answer the questions?
What were the answers? Please cite the page numbers, and include a quote.
If your book did not answer the questions posed, then describe where the information could be found. Cite specific books, and websites to obtain this information.
Lynea Baudino
ReplyDeleteQuestions:
1. What is the adult's perspective on a teenager's attitude? (since the book is written by an older man).
Answer: Many adults know that the generation has changed but they don’t think they have any part in it, they think it’s just the media and peers and many seem to think that adolescents have just gotten more spoiled and cruel and that that’s the only real difference, this is exemplified from the beginning when he quotes that “’Our youth love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority, they show disrespect for elders, and love to chatter in places of exercise (Clark 24).
2. How and why other teenagers feel the way they do whether depressed or happy.
Answer: Hurt did answer this question several times with a couple different answers but it general it states that, “every student I talked to acknowledged that loneliness is a central is a central experience” (Clark 50).
Odd Girl Out
ReplyDelete1. Why do girls suffer from aggression?
- Ms. Simmons does discusses this issue in her book, she says that girls suffer from aggression because many of them want to fit in with the crowd so they go along with all the bullying that comes with it. Popular girls tend to bully others to make themselves seem superior. These girls they are bullying suffer from the aggressions of bullying which affects them on an emotional and physical level.
-"But here is the truth about girls and popularity: It is a cutthroat contest into which girls pour boundless energy and anxiety. It is an addiction, a siren call, a prize for which some would pay any prices. Popularity changes girls, causes a great many of them to lie and cheat and steal" (156).
2. Why are teenagers willing to do anything to fit in with the crowd and not be alone?
- Many teenagers especially girls, are willing to do anything to fit in with the crowd, even if it means having to hurt another person or themselves. In the book Rachel Simmons says that girls tend to want to fit in with the crowd so they don't feel like an outcast. She also says that girls are willing to do anything to fit in because they just want to be included and don't want to be excluded. They want someone to tell their secrets to or to walk home with. They don't want people to pity them if they see them by themselves.
-"Girls may try to avoid being alone at all costs, including remaining in an abusive friendship. 'You don't want to walk alone at reccess,' a sixth grader explained when I asked why she wouldn't stay away from a mean friend...As girls mature, the prospect of being seen alone by others becomes just as daunting...'People who are alone are pitied and no one wants to be pitied'"(32).
-Boys Adrift-
ReplyDelete1. How do some boy's lose focus on school and forget how crucial academics are in the long run.
- Leonard Sax discusses this topic very thoroughly in his book. He states that boy's lose focus towards school at a very young age and it all starts in kindergarten when a boy is put into school before he is mentally ready to operate in an academic environment.
"Timing is everything, in education as in many other fields. It's not enough to teach well. You have to teach well to kids who are ready to learn, kids who are developmentally ripe for learning. Asking five-year old boys to learn to read...may be the worst possible introduction to school...there's one thing five-year-old boys are good at: figuring out who's in the Dumb Group...Many five-year-olds are likely to conclude that the teacher likes the kids in the Smart Group better than she likes the kids in the Dumb Group...once that young boy has decided that the teacher doesn't like him, he's likely to generalize that belief to other teachers and other classrooms" (19-20).
2. What causes boys to play video games?
-There are multiple factors that cause a boy to become involved in gaming. The most popular factor is that they want to feel control over something and video games is an easy way to gain control. However, they may have harmful control or peaceful control.
"Watch a teenage boy playing certain video games, particularly games in which the boy has to shoot and kill his way to victory such a Halo and Grand Theft Auto. Such video games offer a quick and easy fix for these boys. These games give the boys the feeling of power and control they crave: the power of life and death" (57).
questions:
ReplyDelete1. Why do all parents/teachers think all teenagers problems can be solved in the same manner?
2.How has society today effected girls in ways our moms werent effected in their teenage years?
My first question was not answered in the book because Wiseman mostley focuses on guiding your child and doesnt lead much insight into why this is the best way. But this information is most likely available in another parenting book such as Odd Girl Out, Hurt or Boys Adrift. However my second qestion was answered in the book many times. For example;"I can’t emphasize enough the effect that constant connectivity to the Internet, e-mail, cell phones, and texting has on your child’s landscape—not to mention online social networking like MySpace, Webkinz, Club Penguin, Stardoll, Facebook, Twitter, or the ten other new websites the girls will be regularly using by the time this book is published. These things are in your daughter’s life—even if you don’t let her have a cell phone or you don’t think she has an e-mail account."(4)
1. What leads girls to bully one another?
ReplyDelete2. What are some solutions to help stop bullying?
1. Yes; Girls bully for a number of reasons.They feel insecure or pressured by social peers. They feel they must bully others to climb up the social ladder or to keep their friends. As Rachel Simmons says, "They are terrified of being alone" (Simmons 135).
2. Yes; Simmons offers many solutions to stop bullying such as talk to a parent, leave the social group that is bothering you,or take extracurricular activites that will get victims and bullies to experience new things and start socializing with different kinds of people. Rachel Simmons advises that "finding a different community of people can make the difference" (Simmons 257).
1. Why does the author think that parents can't understand their kids?
ReplyDelete2. What are his suggestions to help troubled teens out?
Answers:
1. Yes; The author says that adults think that little has changed from the time they were teens and that they understand what is going on with adolescents.
"Most adults intuitively believe that things are different for today's adolescents, but they hold on to rhetoric and attitudes that support the fantasy that little has changed," (Clark 38).
2. Yes; There are five different strategies that Clark gives to "turn the tide of systemic abandonment."
"Communities must make sure that each student has a few adult advocates who know and care for him or her... Every adult must attempt to add to the cumulative message of protection, nurture, warmth, and affection. It takes several if not dozens of consistently supportive and encouraging messages to counteract the effects of systemic abandonment. By far the best way to help our young is by being a chorus of support of commitment," (Clark 183)
Katarina Stiller
ReplyDeleteHurt
1. How are today’s teenagers and adults’ views towards them different from those of past generations?
-The book states that teenagers have changed greatly over the past few decades, for society expects them to succeed at greater and more stressful tasks that their own generation would ever be expected of. Teenagers have been “abandoned” as adults have become more preoccupied with their own problems than those of the next generation. It is stressed in Hurt how “adolescence is a fundamentally different thing than it was even thirty years ago” (25). Despite this, “we fall back on the caricature that kids are kids, and they have always been kids” (24). Teens are still thought to be the same they always were despite handed more responsibilities and expectations than ever before.
2. How can the divisions between adults and teenagers and between teenagers and teenagers be lessened?
-It is stressed in the book that the cause of these divisions is from neglect on the adults’ part, which compels teens to form a separate “world beneath”. “We would make a greater difference in individuals’ lives if we were simply there for them, without an agenda or a list of critiques” (86). The author states that teens just want someone to support and be there for them, not pushing them away by encouraging them to become the best and brightest. Society needs to come together again in order to provide much needed support for its youth according to the book.
What causes the aggression in girls and how do you prevent it?
ReplyDeleteThe book states that popularity "is a cutthroat contest into which girls pour boundless energy and anxiety. It is an addiction, a siren call, a prize for which some would pay any prices. Popularity changes girls, causes a great many of them to lie and cheat and steal" (Simmons 156).
In addition, the author uses examples from the girls she interviewed to say that girls also bully in retaliation from being bullied themselves.
To prevent bullying, Simmons advises to walk away when the first signs of bullying emerge, and find a new group of girls, saying that "finding a different community of people can make the difference" (Simmons 257).
Nick Sweeting
ReplyDeleteBoys Adrift
1. How do boys manage to stay on track in school while dealing with many challenges in their lives?
Leonard Sax states that many children who are dealing with challenges outside of school tend to become very sidetracked and slack off with school.
"Boys who have been deprived of time outdoors, interaction with the real world rather than with computers, sometimes have trouble grasping the concepts of school" (Sax 30).
2. What factors are pivotal to make the boys unmotavated?
Leonard also illustrates that video games and issues with family are some of the key reasons why boys are unmotivated.
"I know other boys who play more than twenty hours a week, more than three hours a day, every day, including school days- which often means homework ends up being and after-midnight afterthought" (Sax 58).
1. Hurt by Chap Clark
ReplyDelete2. What’s the difference between teenage boys and girls?
How will the author explain the problems of teenagers today?
3. The author does not answer the first question. He doesn’t state them separately; he just talks about teenagers in general. I could find the answer to my question if I read another book that talked about the difference of boys’ and girls’ problems. I could read Queen Bees and Wannabees about girls’ problems and read Boys Adrift for boy’s problems. The author answers the second question by giving examples of teens’ problems. He sets up the book in different categorizes of different problems. For example he gives specific stories of many teenagers at a high school. One specific story is “I may seem like I would fit in, but I’m not too popular. I try to fit in as best as I can. I think that I do a pretty good job. I just don’t know what I did not to fit in. It may just be a stage in my life, but I never feel in the right place. This makes me feel so depressed, but I never show it. I always come off as a happy person to those I meet” (high school student 85).
A Tribe Apart
ReplyDelete1.What ends up happening to teens when their parents aren’t involved enough in their lives?
This question was pretty much answered. The answer I gathered was that the child starts to create their own “tribe apart" so to speak, and that the child begins to feel lost to a world of teens, notorious for what they do wrong. So, they sink into their own stereotypes and start to act out.
2.What can parents do specifically to get involved in their children's lives?
This question was not directly answered. The author mostly told us that parents needed to listen and be involved but not specifically how. For possible additional information on this topic I found a few sources:
1.“Get Involved at School—You Really Can Do It!” by Judy Molland on http://www.pta.org/2234.htm.
2.Ten Simple Rules for Being a Better Parent in a World Turned Upside Down: A handbook to help parents do a better job starting today. by John D. McPherson Jr.
1. Why do girls like being in cliques? The clique makes them feel like part of the group and also feel like they are needed. The clique is also a group of people that the girls can always expect to be there for them. “The common definition of a clique is an exclusive group of girls who are close friends… Cliques reinforce your daughter’s bonds with her friends” (79).
ReplyDelete2. What do parents do in order to relate to their daughters? They need to start communicating more. They are not talking as much as they need to and this prevents them from learning what is going on in her world. If parents don’t know what is going on how they can help fix the situation or offer advice. “I will give you general strategies to help you communicate more effectively with your daughter and translate what she’s saying” (111).
1.I would like to know why teens resort towards freinds for comfort rather than their parents?
ReplyDeleteWhat is the proper way to approch and solve a problem involving a girls problems as a father/male?
My book answered both of my questions in the section about Cliques and Popularity. "Cliques reinforce your daughter's bonds with her friends. they can also break apart or weaken the bond between a daughter and her parents" (Wiseman 79) answers my first question
" But in reality this is an opportunity for you to become a genuinely cool dad. I'm talking about the dad that patiently waits around until she wants to talk, then listens without being judgmental, isn't afraid to look foolish or show emotion." (Wiseman 9) Explains the second question
Boys Adrift:
ReplyDeleteWhat makes teen boys resent their parents?
Yes,my book does answer this question. Teen boys begin to resent or stop talking to their parents because of the playing of video games and not spending enough time with their family."I know other boys who play more than twenty hours a week, more than three hours a day, every day, including school days- which often means homework ends up being and after-midnight afterthought" (Sax 58). This quote explains the problem with video games in boy's lives.
Why is the epidemic of boys staying at home in their twenties becoming so high?
No, my book did not answer this question. www.seniormag.com/caregiverresources/.../adult-children.htm this website explains why boys stay at home as adults because of laziness and lack of motivation.
1. Why do girls have the social tendencies that they do? Is it a natural inclination or is it shaped by society?
ReplyDeleteRosalind Wiseman believes both are true. She says that "girls tend to have a group of girlfriends with whom they feel close" (80). She also feels that girls "are vulnerable to being controlled by the power of the group" (80). Girls naturally tend to want to stick together, but the people that they are with influence their actions within a group.
2. How has it differed over the years? Were girls always like this?
Rosalind Wiseman believes that the only real thing that has changed is technology, which can be used by girls as "weapons of mass destruction" (22). While many of the problems with today's girls are similar to girls in any time period, the effects are amplified by the use of technology.
Hurt-Chap Clark
ReplyDelete1)I hope to learn why teenagers act the way that they do.
Chap Clark believes that teenagers act in a defensive manner because they have been abandoned. Throughout the novel, Clark emphasizes that he believes that teenagers have been abandoned. He also argues that teenagers often need to create a sense of belonging with something other than themselves.
"Adolescents have been cut off for far too long from the adults who have the power and experience to escort them into the greater society. Adolescents have been abandoned. The have, therefore, created their own world, a world that is designed to protect them from the destructive forces and wiles of the adult commuinity" (Clark 21).
2) Also, I hope to learn what adults think of teenagers.
Adults have come to the conclusion that kids are to blam for all of the hardships that they say they must go through to care for us. However they do not realize how much of our activities actually do take a toll on us more than. Now more than ever teenagers need their rest, however they feel the pressure to excel in school and all other aspects of their lives. Parents also fail to realize that their kid is most likely doing all of these things just to please them and attempt to gain some recognition that they have done something well.
"A high school junior who arrives home from school promptly at 5:30 after volleyball practice begins a four- to six- hour nightly ordeal called homework-on an average night. She has dinner over a textbook, which allows her to avoid conversation with her mom, and falls asleep exhausted at midnight, only to rise the next morning at 5:30 for band practice before her 7:00 AP calculus class'...What is interesting is that many adults will highlight these and other activities as proof of their commitment to the young. 'I drive my kid to all of these activities. I sacrificed my own life, work, avocation, and enjoyment in order to take the kids to their multitude of activities" (Clark 46).
Boys Adrift
ReplyDeleteI hope to find out why todays teenagers are loosing motivation in thier lives. I also want to know what we can do to help them.
My book did answer this question. There are many excerpts covering this topic but here is one of them. " Many factors today are contributing to the lack to the lack of motivation in todays teenagers. Some of these include a larger access to video games, television, and social status's at school" (Sax 33).
I was not able to find a clear answer tot his question in my book but luckily i was able to find it on a website called www.parent-child-development.com. According to this website, there are two things that drive motivation, love and fear. If a child loves something they will be driven to achieve high goals in that activity. Also, the fear of receiving a bad grade or being scolded will lead to hard work and performance. However, there is a much gentler solution to this problem. Find out what the child is interested in, and get them involved in that activity. Ideally, the child will receive motivation from doing what they love and that will carry over into other aspects of life such as academics.
A Tribe Apart: A Journey into the Heart of American Adolescence
ReplyDelete1. What are the factors that cause the separation of adults and teens, and how does this isolation go unnoticed by the adult community?
2. What can be done to establish solid communication between teenagers and adults in order to prevent isolation and destructive habits in teenagers in the future?
While Patricia Hersch observes that the issues that teens face are usually the result of isolation from the adult world, the questions I had regarding HOW these problems can be fixed were not addressed through her book. However, in a Pediatrics article on www.about.com, Vincent Iannelli directly states his theories on how communication between adolescents and adults can be mended. He suggests that adults should ask their teens open-ended questions which show the teen that the parent cares about his/her feelings and opinions on issues that matter, and refrain from judgement or cynicism while talking with their teen. Barbara Poncelet, who has written an online article on teen health, suggests that "floor time is a way of interacting with your [toddler] where that child [has] your undivided attention and you follow his or her lead". She believes the same concept of undivided attention and listening and interacting with teens as much as possible helps restore communication, make teens feel included and significant, and lead to a mutually beneficial and healthy adult-teen relationship.
Alex Griego
ReplyDelete-Hurt-
1. My first question was: Why do some people find joy in making others feel bad?
2. My other question was: why is it so easy for teenagers to be pressured by their "friends"?
1.Hurt did not answer my first question. I would most likely find the answer to this question in the book Queen Bees and Wannabees because the book is apparently about cliques and how people will hurt each other to be in their desired clique. I did find a specific reference to MY question from a website.
It stated: "We attack others in order to feel good, or at least belittle someone as a way of making ourselves look better; finding fault or putting them down makes us feel superior. This tends to happen more when we are down ourselves, as misery loves company; feel bad yourself and you invariably find fault in others." (Ed and Deb Shapiro) ( http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ed-and-deb-shapiro/why-do-we-feel-good-when-_b_765643.html )
2. I did find the answer to my other question in my book. In a quote by an anonymous high school student it is stated that, "Everyone wants to fit in, so they do what everyone else does, such as drugs and drinking. People have to be extremely strong not to give in to these actions. I think a person's family influences action in saying no. But drugs, they are extremely popular. They are everywhere. Drinking is also popular." (Clark 160)