Copy and paste your two questions from blog 1.
Did your book answer the questions?
What were the answers? Please cite the page numbers, and include a quote.
If your book did not answer the questions posed, then describe where the information could be found. Cite specific books, and websites to obtain this information.
Monika Narula
ReplyDeleteWhy are girls the way they are and what causes them to be the way they are? How are the situations that almost caused severe pain, mentally and physically, for example attempting suicide, handled?
Yes, my book, Reviving Ophelia, did answer my two questions.
The answer to my first question is that adolescent girls are pressured by American culture and media to act and be a certain way. Mary Pipher said that,"...girls face [American] cultural pressure to split...the pressure comes from schools, magazines, music, television, advertisements, and movies. It comes from peers" (38). The answer to my second question is that when there is a situation where somebody's life is in jeopardy, one should go to therapy. This is shown as an example when a girl,"...ran away from home...her parents...called for a therapy appointment"(46).
Questions:
ReplyDelete1. What are some of the changes happening to girls from middle school to high school?
2. Why are girls having so much trouble throughout high school and why do they change?
Answers:
1. Some of the changes that happen to adolescent girls were lack of conversations, lower self-confidence, and discourage which changes their life; “As she adopts a false self, Cayenne loses her confidence and calmness. She loses her clear, direct speech” (38).
2. Girls have troubles throughout high school because now that they are older they start to feel about themselves so they start caring about their looks; “In early adolescence girls learn how important appearance is in defining social acceptability. Attractiveness is both necessary and a sufficient condition for girls’ success” (40).
Jai Chopra
ReplyDelete1. Why do teenagers act and do the things they do?
2. Is there a relationship between the actions of teens and consumerism?
Answers (from the book):
1. Most teenagers feel that they have no power in their lives, so the need to rebel and create power is created. Teens feel powerful when they exclude each other from themselves, creating social cliques and statuses. “The patterns of behavior characteristic of teenagers result from segregating young people into schools until they are at least seventeen or eighteen and greatly limiting the kind of power they have. Adults and most young people like this age- based form of segregation” (Milner 7).
2. Teenagers, especially girls, have a tendency to continually buy the latest clothes and keep up with the latest fashions. The ability to buy new clothes consistently became a social class in itself. "Clothes during high school were extremely important. Clothes measured how much money a person had, and how well that person could keep up with the ever-changing fashion world. It was always important to know brand name clothes if you were popular" (Milner 5).
1. Why do teens do the unorthodox things they do? Do teens act accordingly to where they think they rank in high school society?
ReplyDeleteMy book answers the questions I proposed before reading it.
Why do teens do the unorthodox things they do? The answer is they do things accordingly to their peer relationships. “First, we will examine some of the obvious norms of teenagers and how they are important in shaping the student status structures in schools. These include norms about beauty, athletic ability, clothes and style, athletic uniforms and letter jackets, speech, body language, collective memories, humor, ritual, popular music, dancing and singing and space and territory. It is not news to point out that these concerns are often important to adolescents. The important thing to see is how they are all variations on the same themes: seeking status through conformity in order to fit in, that is, to gain a sense of acceptance and belonging. The paradox is that in order to be successful in the “conformity game” students must constantly change, elaborate, and complicate the norms in order to gain a competitive advantage. This is not the case for the most traditional status systems and, as we will see, even a few aspects of high school life,” (44).
Do teens act accordingly to where they think they rank in high school society? The answer is yes they do, because if they feel that talking or hanging out with someone who is below them will hurt their social status. “Adolescents are acutely aware that who they associate with affects their own status. Often disassociation is a prerequisite to desirable associations. In early adolescence, disassociating yourself from your parents, in at least some ways, is virtually a prerequisite for associating with high status peers. A girl from a Catholic high school notes, “The freshmen who were driven by their parents occupied the lowest status, because it was very ‘uncool’ to be be associated with your parents in public, no matter where you were.” Avoiding low status peers is also important. A New Jersey male reports, “ It was critical to one’s status to be seen talking only to people in your own status group. By talking to someone who was beneath you, you ran the risk of lowering your own status.” These avoidance concerns obviously restrict interaction between groups,” (61-62).
Raychel Ruiz
ReplyDeleteMy 2 questions were why are girls mean towards other girls? and how does a person being targeted feel about the situation?
The book answered both of my questions. For my first question the paragraph "what does she gain by being a queen bee?" answered my first question. Girls are mean towards others because they "feel power and control over their environment. They are the center of attention and people pay homage to her"(Wiseman 89).
My second question was answered as well by a section in the book labeled as "The Target".
It says that your daughter "feels helpless to stop the girl's behavior, feels as if she has no allies, and feels isolated"(Wiseman 96).
Queen Bees and Wannabees
ReplyDelete1. Why is there such a massive amount of seemingly ridiculous girl drama compared to almost nonexistent guy drama? What types of approaches do parents take in attempting to stop their daughters from being corrupted by others when in my experience it does not seem to work?
ANSWERS:
1. This book actually did not answer the first question on why there is girl drama yet very little similar guy drama, but it did talk about how girls tend to use bullying in a more verbal or even silent ways while boys tend to be more physical. A book that may provide this answer would be one that compares the adolescence of boys and girls.
2. The second question is answered and Wiseman says that parents mostly either try to hard or do not try hard enough in attempting to help their daughters become an good person and live without causing or recieveing any drama. Parents get to involved in their daughters problems and that makes things worse in the end. "In my work with parents I see a variety of parenting styles and philosophies. Most of them are based on love, but as you probably know, there's a lot of anxiety, fear, and denial out there" (page 112).
1. I hope this book answers the question about girls being rude to their own friends and family, and why boys and internet have changed the way that girls act.
ReplyDelete2.Queen Bee's and Wannabees is organized by the different challenges that girls go through. Each chapter is a different reason and explanation about girls.
-My first question was answered because the author eventually said that as the parent you need to learn to let go a little too. "What I'm saying is before you say no, remember how important these thing were when you were her age" (186). Basically saying you need to understand where shes coming from and you'll see why she is rude and misunderstanding.
-The book answered my questions because technology t is quick and easy, that girls always want to be connected and know whats going on, and the do it to impress other peer, and they dont have to be paranoid behind technology.. They can do or say what they want with confidence (23).
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I want to know why teenagers are depressed and angry and how adults and teens can cooperate to exterminate this problem. What is it that sets teenagers apart from adults or why is it that adults and teens seem to always have conflicts?
ReplyDeleteQueen Bees & Wannabes-Lisa Fast
ReplyDeleteQ's
A) Do I betray myself, my friends, or parents to fit in or talk to boys?
B) What things should I be aware of so I don't affect my reputation?
A's:
A)"At some point girls will lie, connive, or backstab to get the boy they want. Your daughter may lie and sneak behind your back to be with her boyfriend, especially if you don't like him and/or forbid her to see him"(325).
I would say that I don't betray myself, friends or parents to talk to boys because i have not done either of any of these. I don't ever see myself doing this in the future either.
B)"She has to be the center of attention...she freaks out when she sees any kind of insect...Girls don't trust her...She wants to play dodgeball with the boys...Everyone thinks her life is perfect but she tries desperately...She is one of those preppy, preppy people...She only wears black and dyes her hair"(202-203).
All these reputations show me not to try too hard to be a part of one group but to just be myself and let life take me into the group I am ment to be a part of. I've learned not to gossip and if I do have a bad reputation that doesn't mean I can't fix it. Also, I shouldn't do something foolish just for my friends or boys that will impact how they see me.e
Queen Bees and Wanna Bees- Amber Stoebe
ReplyDelete1. What causes teenage girls to divide into cliques and to act so inconsiderate and insulting towards one another?
2. Do parents unwittingly influence their vulgar actions?
1. Girls divide into cliques and act to cruel to one another because they want to fit in somewhere and not be an outcast. Once she is in the clique she is trapped and has no choice but to do whatever it takes to stay in it and be accepted; even if it means being inconsiderate to others. “Cliques are self-reinforcing. As soon as you define your role and group, you perceive others as outsiders. It becomes harder to put yourself in their shoes, and therefore it is easier to be cruel to them or watch and do nothing…this is the way people assert their power…she’s the one who has to stay on the raft with the girls. See why your daughter is so tempted to “do the wrong thing” even if she knows better?” (Wiseman 101).
2. They way parents where as teenagers does not set in stone the way their daughters will be, instead, the way the parents act and parent influences their children’s vulgar actions if they are influenced wrongly. “Leave behind the assumption that Queen Bee girls always have Queen Bees as mothers- “after all, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.” Because I don’t think that’s a helpful way to think about it…if you believe this line of thinking, you’ll never be able to see Queen Beeism in your own child…it really doesn’t matter which girl has which parents…instead…the way you handle yourself is profound” (Wiseman 123).
1.Why do girls change so much from middleschool to highschool?
ReplyDelete2.How do you deal with problems?
My book, Reviving Ophelia, answers these two questions.
1. Girls change so much due to "a more dangerous, sexualized and media-saturated culture. They face incredible pressures to be beautiful and sophisticated, which in junior high means using chemicals and being sexual. As they navigate a more dangerous world, girls are less protected" (Pipher 12).
2. "We can strenghten girls so that they will be ready. We can encourage emotional toughness and self-protection. We can support and guide them. But most important, we can change our culture. We can work together to build a culture that is less comlicated and more nurturing, less violent and sexualized and more growth-producing" (Pipher 13).
I hope this book will explain what provokes girls to bully one another and also give ways to prevent this bullying or to resolve the conflicts.
ReplyDeleteMy book, Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons, answers my questions.
It explains that built up resentment,anger, and annoyance that were repressed over a long period of time due to society's lack of approval of girls being mean to one another or having non-prefect relationships in their lives provokes girls to bully one another. Only when one girl does something that is socially acceptable to be angry at can the other be mean and react. "Of all the incidents that upset the girls, the only one that incited them into response...was a socially acceptable reason for female anger" (p 100).
Bullying in this alternative form can be prevented by allowing girls to express their anger directly to one another without looking down on it with a disapproving eye, by parents actively listening to their daughter's troubles, and by not dismissing the bulling or bad friendship situation as simply a phase that all girls must go through. "Girls need to make peace with conflict...This means providing girls not only with a healthier relationship to aggression, but with permission to experience the uncomfortable feelings that often precede anger and conflict" (p 231).
Drake Cook
ReplyDelete1. Why is it that teens have their own little secret world that adults dont know about?
2. How come teens do not get along with adults? What are their differences or similarities? And how to change our relationship?
1. In hurt the author explains that midadolescents parents or the adults do not understand their children. They believe that they do because the child says that everything is alright even when things arent alright. Resulting in this is teens go to other teens that have the same problems so they can better relate with eachother and understand what problems their going through.
I do not have my book with me so i cannot cite the exact page or anything of that sort but i do know the author spoke of that.
2. Teens do not get a long with adults because teens believe adults are just simply completely different. Differences between teens and adults would be the most obvious. Teens tend to be more immature than adults and dont know how to cope with many situations in life. Similarities would be that teens and adults both feel pressure no matter what the occasion, they both know the feeling of to have struggle in their life. Ways we can change is to become more close with your child by having more conversations simply than just saying how was school or anything of that sort. Being more open always helps to.
1. I would like to know how other parents advise other parents on how to raise their teenager.
ReplyDelete2. Why some girls are very mean to others?
1. I feel like my book didn't quite answer my question on how parents advise other parents it just gave examples on the differences i would most likely have found it in the book Hurt.
2. Girls are mean towards others because they "feel power and control over their environment. They are the center of attention and people pay homage to her"(Wiseman 89).
1. What causes girls to act and behave the ways that they do that cause so much hurt to others? 2. What do parents do to cause/prevent this type of behavior?
ReplyDelete1. In Queen Bees and Wannabes, though Rosalind Wiseman mentions how girls want to feel superior and their goal in life is to the the queen bee of even the wannabe, but she never goes into why they do this. Perhaps this answer could be found in more of a psychological book, and less of a parent-help book.
2. There are all types of parents that my book talked about including the author's favorite, the "hard-ass parent"(Wiseman 119). She describes them and specifically explains each parent and what the negative/positive aspects are of being that type of parent.
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ReplyDelete1. I hope to learn why girls have so much more drama then boys in their adolescent years.
2. I would like to know how the social structure differs in groups of girls compared to groups of boys.
The first question did not get fully answered. In order to get a complete answer, I would need to read one of the books about adolescent boys from the outside read list to understand how the average population of adolescent teen boys is structured and what kind of drama can usually be expected from different types of boys.
Girls are structured in individual cliques that are "[platoons] of soldiers who have banded together to navigate the perils and insecurities of adolescence" (Wiseman 19). The author explains all the different duties that the girls have to their cliques and all the different roles that they may take.
Hopefully this book will attempt to explain the apparently over-simplified view on the sporadic emotions of "vulnerable" teenagers and try to give a sense of advice whether or not it is accurate.
ReplyDeleteanswers:
1.) Clark comments that teenagers are over burdened and lack strong relationships with parents. Clark answers both points with this "We have evolved to the point where we believe driving is support, being active is love, and providing any and every opportunity is selfless nurture. We are a culture that has forgotten how to be together" (Clark, 46).
To the second question, Clark lists five ways to help kids, "Those who work with youth should be trained in the changing of youth culture...Those who serve adolescents must work together...Those who serve adolescents must understand youth and proved boundaries...Parents need to be equipped and encouraged to parent the changing adolescent...Communities must make sure that each student has a few adult advocates who know and care for him or her" (Clark, 178-183).